The journey of JasTer...

Scary!!!

2010-01-07T08:32:00.003+08:00

BTO flats at Choa Chu Kang are overly subscribed! The ratio is alarming! But I think that is a good thing for Bester and I! At least it sends a signal to the "gar-ver-ment" that there is a constant demand for new flats... Heheee...

Build more flats around the new MRT line, pretty please?!!!!

"What men want most from their wives.."

2010-01-05T08:30:00.001+08:00

Stop nagging...

Tue, Jan 05, 2010
Diva

Most men wished that their wives would stop nagging as naggy wives reminded them of their mothers.

According to Shin Min evening daily, a study on online parenting magazine, sg.theasianparent.com, was carried out among 100 married men who were each asked to list what they wanted most from their wives.

On the issue of nagging, many men hoped that their wives were simply able to specify what was required of them, give them a deadline and they would get the job done dutifully. The incessant nagging does not work as they would automatically tune out once the badgering starts.

Next on the list, men wanted their wives to be more appreciative of their actions. Instead of harping on what they didn't achieve, women can focus on what they've sacrificed.

In addition, men wanted their wives to stop micromanaging their relationship with the children. If the wives keep interrupting and have the final say in every decision from which movie to watch to whether their child is allowed to eat ice-cream, the man of the household will feel he lack the rights to parenting his own child.

Here is the top 10 list of what men want of their wives:
1 - Stop nagging
2 - Appreciating their contributions
3 - Don't be a Nazi
4 - Stop guilt-tripping them
5 - Life to be less intense, more relaxed
6 - Give allowance for mistakes
7 - Lower their standard in terms of household chores
8 - Respect our personal sex life
9 - Acknowledge their presence - they deserve a say in any major decision-making
10 - Don't neglect them because of the kids

Bester, does that speak of your heart felt feelings?

The Marriage Creed

2009-12-25T08:32:00.001+08:00

- Comfort each other
- Listen to each other
- Respect each other's rights
- Be a Friend and Partner
- Caress as you would be caressed
- Allow the other to be an Individual
- Be open with each other
- Cherish your union
- Give each other approval
- Love one another

Merry Christmas!

2009-12-25T01:30:00.003+08:00

Seasons Greetings from Mr and Mrs Swee Sylvester!

Merry Christmas!

Thank you papa roach for getting me the weighing machine and the calculator!!! Simply adore them! Haa...

More sneak previews.

2009-12-21T09:54:00.004+08:00

A collage of the morning preparations!

Alone. Lots of emotions.

He's here! My brother opening the door for 姐夫.

A time which all the brothers enjoyed themselves!

Moving out!

With my precious Lucky Lee!

Solemnisation by Fr Stephen Yim.

Mr & Mrs Swee!

Dinner!

A night to remember for life!

Research time!

2009-12-18T08:53:00.002+08:00

If you are intending to get a house of your dreams, please do sit down with your the other half and research on it. It maybe achieveable to get a over $500k 4 room flat at a central area by just taking up the longest loan tenor and the maximum loan quantum that you can ever get! BUT do you know how much more interest you are paying just to get that house of your dreams?

Gosh!!! I have to WAKE up from my own dream first.

Our Bridal Suite

2009-12-08T07:27:00.004+08:00

My cousin was so fascinated that day and was snapping photos of everything! And thankfully so, cos one such picture was captured on my mum's phone, a picture that could be lost in ages if nothing was done to keep it... And so here it is, presenting....

OUR BRIDAL SUITE!

Considering we won't get our own home till another 5 years time, this is probably where all the manufacturing will take place... Haaa....

Bliss...

2009-12-07T18:41:00.012+08:00

Some time, not too long ago, we were both stretched to our breaking points preparing for our big day...

And I can still vividly recall that amidst the quarrels, the only thing I could do was dream about a day where I could once again "sit with dar dar at West Mall Coffee Bean whispering sweet nothings instead of discussing deadlines.." And though a simple wish, it seemed impossible back then...

Praise God for how things never fail to take a turn for the better! That dream which seemed so far away has become a reality today! And boy does "dating" my wife feel good!!!~

There will always be light at the end of a tunnel... Keep your eyes focused on your hope... For me, my hope is Christ... ^_^

Sneaks.

2009-12-07T00:33:00.007+08:00

Great job from CS Lim, AM.PM Photography. Some sneak previews for our enjoyment!

When it all ended...

2009-12-04T19:07:00.006+08:00

.... Yes! Sylvester's friends went up to our room after the dinner ended! Haa.. and they made us drink! Gosh. Bester was already so drunk when they left... As for me? I managed to finish watching the morning express highlights before going to the toilet to puke all the red wine out!!! Thank goodness I did if not I would had a hangover the very next day, just like Sylvester!

Bester was initially on the couch while we were watching the video. The very next moment, he was there lying on the floor! "Can I sleep on the floor tonight?" Bester asked!!! Haa...

Was shivering in coldness when I was in the bed! Fell asleep immediately! Wasted!!! We didn't get to try any food from our wedding dinner... sob sob!!!

After drinking got to do some kissing? One of my legs went up to Bester as his friends cheered!

Sylvester a goner! See what his brothers were doing to him!!! Haa...

You can see that I was quite drunk!!! =) Bester was acting... erm a bit weird.. haaa...

Credits: Photos from Kenny

Mugging!

2009-12-04T19:53:00.003+08:00

My dar dar studying for her ACCA exams next Tuesday! Pretty right? Taken at AMK Library... Hee... ^_^

Dreaming... About lil' Jasters...

2009-09-28T20:10:00.009+08:00

I was on the train last Saturday with Jas, heading home after collecting our church invites from JB... It was a fun and enjoyable conversation as usual when we were suddenly on the topic of: "What we would name our kids in future?"

Two English names which were previously discussed briefly were suddenly given nice Mandarin equivalents in a moment of "brilliance"! (or so I thought...) Haha... These names eventually stuck deep in my head for the entire weekend...

Well, even if we are planning to have kids only like 1-2 years later, it's still cool and fun to dream about them... =)

Here it goes!

Us being Jasmine and Sylvester, our son's name will start with "J" and our daughter's with "S".

JOVAN SWEE 孙卓恩 - how about 茁 instead of 卓?
(adopted from 赵文卓 and 恩 cos Jasmine likes this word, rhymes with JOVAN)

SABRINA SWEE 孙芮雅
(adopted from 芮恩 and 优雅, rhymes with SABRINA)

Nice? Please post your views thanks... Hee... ^_^

LalaLalaalaaa...

2009-11-28T08:37:00.004+08:00

Updates:
Wedding Video will be ready in 4 months time.
Wedding Photos can be viewed in 1 to 2 months time.
This is what we call professionalism. =)

Following are the songs that were used during our wedding. We shall post up stanzas of the songs which both of us can fully relate to.

1) "When God Made You" - by Newsong
This is our 1st march in song. =)
Its always been a mystery to me,
How two hearts can come together,
And love can last forever.
But now that I have found you I believe,
That a miracle has come when God sends the perfect one.
So gone are all my questions about why,
And I've never been so sure of anything in my life

Oh I wonder what God was thinking,when he created you.
I wonder if He knew everything I would need,
Because he made all my dreams come true.
When God made you, He must have been thinking about me.

Ooo ooo,I promise that wherever you may go, wherever life may lead you,
With all my heart I'll be there too.
And from this moment on I want you to know,
I'll let nothing come between us, and I will love the ones you love.
So gone are all my questions about why

2) "半生熟" - by 品冠 & 戴佩妮
A playful and upbeat song for our 2nd march in.

你总是腼腆用幽默语言
填满我心里的小缺陷
灌溉满座花园让我住里面
对你我怎么可能心不在焉
你总是淘气用微笑双眼
照亮我生活每个阴天
编织整片屋檐让我躲里面
对你我没有抱怨

我为你泡的咖啡额外加了甜
赶走夜的晕眩
我为你准备一整年的喜悦
一步一个脚印让幸福实现

3) "Thank you Girl" - by Beatles
This song was chosen by Why Keen from Ichirofilms and was used in our childhood montage. Even till this moment, we really love the song to bits!!! Great song choice, Why Keen. Thank you so much!!!

Ah, ah, mm, you be good to me
you made me glad when I was blue
And eternally I'll always being love with you
And all I gotta do is thank you girl
Thank you girl

I could tell the world a thing or two about love
I know little girl only a fool
would doubt our love
And all I gotta do is thank you girl
Thank you girl

Thank you girl for lovin' me
the way that you do(way that you do)
That's the kind of love that is too good to be true
Al all I gotta do is thank you girl
Thank you girl

4) "God only knows" - by The Beach Boys
Yet another song choice by Why Keen who had also used this in our montage! Lovely song lyrics... Only God knows how all the things for our wedding have all been so perfect and beautiful... Thank you, Lord.

I may not always love you
But long as there are stars above you
You never need to doubt it
I'll make you so sure about it
God only knows what I'd be without you

If you should ever leave me
Though life would still go on, believe me
The world could show nothing to me
So what good would livin' do me
God only knows what I'd be without you

5) "Give me the simple life" - Jamie Cullum
Why Keen used this song in the morning express video. What can we say? I think it truly reflected what Sylvester was thinking during the gate crashing. haa...

I don't believe in frettin' and grievin';
Why mess around with strife?
I never was cut out to step and strut out.
Give me the simple life.

Some find it pleasant dining on pheasant.
Those things roll off my knife;
Just serve me tomatoes; and mashed potatoes;
Give me the simple life.

Bridge:

A cottage small is all I'm after,
Not one that's spacious and wide.
A house that rings with joy and laughter
And the ones you love inside.

Some like the high road, I like the low road,
Free from the care and strife.
Sounds corny and seedy, but yes, indeed-y;
Give me the simple life.

The greatest of these is love.

2009-11-29T13:46:00.006+08:00

1 Corinthians 13:13

"And now only these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."

Beautiful verse isn't it? When we first started dating, Jasmine made a photo collage together with this verse. So when it was time to design our church wedding invitation card, we did not hesitate and chose this verse too!

Here's a picture taken by Kenny when we took our vows. Such a waste that we did not manage to take a picture with Father Yim that day! One decision that we never regretted making is to get Father Stephen Yim (Christ the King) to help us preside our church wedding

"Sylvester, why is Jasmine seated on your left and not on your right?" asked Father Yim.

The answer? Jasmine is closest to your heart. =)

Our very own couple phones! Finally!

2009-11-25T22:39:00.001+08:00

Whee! Our very own couple phones! Same model, same colour, same everything!

Question: What do "S" and "J" stand for?
Answer: Nope not "Sylvester" and "Jasmine", but "Samsung Jet"! ^_^

Day Express Highlights.

2009-11-19T14:13:00.006+08:00

Credits: Why Keen from Ichirofilms...

This was what happened...

Our Story.

2009-11-19T14:15:00.002+08:00

Credits: Why Keen from Ichirofilms...

A video that touches our hearts...

谢谢各位！

2009-11-16T12:45:00.002+08:00

It was the near to perfect wedding!!! All these would not have happened without the help of XDs & JMs, both side parents and families... I hope all you have as much fun as Bester and I did!!!

Jasmine will like to thank the following people:

To all the jie meis: Thank you so much for the coming together and giving such great ideas for the gate crashing!!! Thank you to Wen, Jen, Ying & Carinne for the beautiful gift which has the BBSS friends’ blessings!!! Best gift I have ever received. Thank you for coming up with such a beautiful love contract! Simply love it. Really.

1) Wen: Thank you so much for being such a wonderful main coordinator for the wedding. Your leadership has ensured that all the things ran smoothly during the whole wedding. Thank you so so so much for standing in for being the emcee for the night. You did a GREAT job despite so many last minute changes to the script. Words cannot describe how grateful we are to you.

2) Jenny: Thank you so much for always being with me throughout the day, ensuring that I looked pretty! Thank you for being a “runner” for me, especially when I had actually forgotten my “can-can” (hahaa… which you kept referring as “pom pom”) in the morning!!! Thank you!

3) Carinne: Thank you so much for leading the gate crashing so well that the guys actually did enjoy themselves even when they were tekan-ed! Thank you so much for ushering the guests for the church service and also taking care of the sitting arrangement for the night.

4) Ying: Thank you so much for being so onz during the gate crashing and helping during and after the church service. Thank you!

5) Ting: Thank you for all for the chats during office hours (oops! Hush hush…) and brightening up my days when I was down!!! Thank you.

6) Juan: Thank you for all the hard work during the church and dinner reception!!! Thank you for ensuring that all the guests are well informed of where they are seated!

7) Hui: You looked stunning with the permed hair and wearing the tube dress!!! Bester commented that you look very lady like! Haa. Thank you so much for helping me to buy the wooden ruler too. Thank you.

8) Why Keen: Thank you so much for all the hard work put in for the montage and express highlights!!! Our guests were very touched. Some of them even cried! AWWwwwWww...

9) CS Lim: Thank you so much for guiding us through the whole day. Thank you for your jokes! It sure help us to loosen our nervousness. =P

10) Thank you to all the guests who have turned up for the church wedding or the wedding dinner!!! Thank you all for your generosity!!!

DOMO ARIGATO GOZAIMASHITAKA!

2009-11-16T12:38:00.000+08:00

Friendship knows no boundaries.

I have seen some REAL love on my wedding day last Saturday… Friends who CARED from the bottom of their hearts...

N I'm truly touched, so much that just thinking of you all makes me wanna cry! Boohoo... Sob sob...

There is one particular person though, that is so pivotal, without him the wedding would be a flop. He is none other than, KENNY LIM.

He followed us during the church rehearsals a week before the wedding, proactively asked questions, settled all the AV, music, photo montage, lightings single-handedly for the church as well as the banquet! No questions asked, a chop chop and very steady individual, he GETS things done.

Dropped by house the night before, helped me be an "audience" to practice my script (which I eventually scrapped cos Jasmine's was so good already and mine was too serious sounding and anticlimax)... Kenny regularly reported to me on updates, whispering into my ear "Swee, all set up, good to go." But the biggest thing he did, at 6pm the night before, he said, "Take out all your montages, make copies of them.. N take out your march in songs and test them. It was then we knew they were faulty. We rushed to Popular at AMK Hub, he bought DVDs, burned them, and he ensured they worked before going home. Thank you KENNY LIM!

Next up Weiguang, super man. Did an excellent job for the banquet as overall coordinator. Managed the reception table well like all good infantry officers do! Salute!~ Made sure all buses arrived on time. Arranged tables before I arrived to take photos. Helped me "block" a few boozes and weird concoctions. Thank you!

N Elvin, my cute and lovely friend. Thank you for borrowing your brother's car for my wedding (although I think your own White Lancer is very cool too!) Thank you for driving everyone up and down without any complains.. With you driving, our helpers were in safe hands.

Thank you Songhui! Thanks for taking care of the Angpows, for ushering the guests at church so professionally and proactively.. Thank you Zhirong, for the pushups! I couldn't see who the other person was who did pushups but thanks! Thank you Leslie my dear bro! Thank you for helping me to sing the song at her house when I forgot the lyrics! Friends forever!!

Thank you all for playing the games so sportingly and I loved the pole dance!

N last but not least, thank you John, my man. Became a last minute stand in emcee with only a few weeks notice. Bought a $300+ suit just for my wedding, brought me to toilet to wash up when I was drunk, entertained my guests and personally walked to every table to distribute carpark coupons... THANK YOU!!! See you at your housewarming next January!

Once again, GOD BLESS YOU ALL! - Ter ^_^ (Happily married)

PS: I can’t wait to meet up and give you all a treat! By the way, my greatest regret was engaging Kriston for the buffet! Why the sample during the roadshow and the actual day standard so different!!?? Kriston if u r reading this pls seriously think about it… The service staff were excellent though… But still….. &*$#$@^

Traffic Information - Road closures around Mandarin Oriental

2009-11-10T08:51:00.006+08:00

Dear all,

Thank you so much for taking your precious time to attend our wedding. Following are the details for each respective event on this coming Saturday.

Church Wedding

Wedding Banquet:

Due to the APEC 2009, there will be road closures around the hotel area. Please refer to the map below. Please also note that President Obama will be arriving Marina Square area between 6pm to 6.45pm. As such, there will be FULL road closures during the period of time. The hotel has kindly advised us that it will be better for guests who are driving in to reach either before 6pm or after 6.45pm. We may expect heavy traffic jams due to the road conditions.

Please also bring along the invitation card just in case. =)

For more information, log on to http://www.apec2009.sg/

Cocktails will be served at 7pm. Please try to be early if possible as we will like to start the dinner promptly at 7.30pm. Thank you all so much! =)

If you are going Mandarin Oriental by train, below is a rough map to show how you can walk from Marina Square. Please note that Suntec Convention Centre will be closed to public.

From City Hall MRT station, walk through Citilink and up to Marina Square.

Thank you all and we will see you this coming Saturday!

The nerves...

2009-11-04T19:41:00.003+08:00

The nerves are a dangerous thing, pushing people to the edge... Throughout our 5 and a half years of dating, we've weathered many a storm and in fact all imaginable (so I thought)... But the recent 1 year of wedding preparation process truly pushed us to a whole new level!

The recent few months especially, was a real roller-coaster ride! Through this gruelling experience, we had to work under constant tight deadlines, extreme conditions, as well as burnt numerous consecutive weekends and weekday nights... We got to learn so much more about each other, as co-workers, colleagues, project partners... We've learnt how each other deals with stress, reacts to certain situations, transforms ideas into action, manages time etc.

Now I finally understand why everytime an elder cousin, colleague or friend speaks of their wedding they will remark, "It's tiring." Haha... But this has made us grow STRONGER and CLOSER. No doubt about it. Something that no Marriage Preparation Course or Engaged Encounter can do...

A man and wife can't truly be ONE unless they've seen each other through the good and bad... That is why the vow goes, "in riches and poverty, sickness and health, all the days of our lives..."

With 10 days to go, most of the work has been done!

There is but one thing on my mind - go for a date with my wife when this is over. Somewhere special, faraway, or just somewhere simple. It doesn't matter. A movie, or maybe a stroll along the beach. I long to just go "pat tor" once again with my beloved wife. With no cares or worries. N the day will come again when my love and I will chill out at West Mall Coffee Bean again, whispering sweet nothings instead of deadlines, decisions, appointments and rehearsals.... Hee.....

Dreaming~... - Ter ^_^

Guo Da Li.

2009-11-02T09:25:00.001+08:00

We're making everything as simple as possible. Not much things for the exchange. I'll post up the pictures later okie? hehee..

18 days.

2009-10-27T16:09:00.001+08:00

I can't believe my eyes!!!

Our hearts are racing.

Prayers needed!

2009-10-15T09:00:00.000+08:00

Please pray for Bester. He's falling sick more often nowadays. Pray that he will recover soon and have good health!

Questions.

2009-10-07T11:06:00.002+08:00

How can 2 different personalities come together and be unified as one? By the grace of God. Is it lacking in here now?